“You will not fulfill your destiny until you let go of the illusion of control”
Having an obsession of wanting to control everything is like a disease, it can stress you out, and it will almost always lead to you being a lonely, unsuccessful person. Being in control is just an illusion, it doesn’t really exist, and it’s just a feeling that you feel when things are going the way you want them to go based on your ego.
Having Control Only Feeds Your Ego
When you try to control situations and circumstances that you can’t foresee, whether in your business, in your relationships, or in any other area of your life, you will get stressed out. The reason most people try to control the uncontrollable is because they believe it’s the only way situations will work out right (particularly men). Guess what, it’s actually not true, and nobody can control any situation.
There are many ways of doing the same thing, many of which you probably don’t even know about. For example, if you read about people that have become rich on this website, you will notice not one of them did it exactly the way someone else did, sure they have certain patterns that are similar, but all of the situations they went through are different. They became successful because they learned to go with the flow, and not try to control every situation that came their way.
When you try to control situations, you will only be doing harm to yourself as it will stress you when things stop working out the way you planned. This is a huge reason that many marriages and businesses fail because one person thinks they know the “right” way of doing something, however there is actually thousands of ways of getting one thing done, but the best way is to go with the flow, make decisions when you’re hearts in it and not your logical mind. The next time you find yourself fighting with someone on how to do something “right”, try to take a step back, drop the ego, and realize that your way may not be the only way.
Control Isn’t All Bad
The only type of control you should be practicing is self-control. You are the only person you can control, so instead of focusing on what might happen, and trying to control the future, focus on controlling yourself so that you can become a more successful individual. When you focus on bettering yourself, your entire ego goes out the window because you’re not comparing yourself to others and you’re not trying to change things you can not change. You should be focused on how you can be a more determined person, how you can be more loving towards your loved ones, and what you did wrong in certain situations; this is something you can control.
Faith Is The Only Way To Get Where You Want To Be
This is the only way to get to where you want to be. Although you don’t see how things are going to turn out, trying to control the invisible is insanity. The only way to have situations work out in your life whatever they may be, is to have faith that everything will happen the right way in the end, without you trying to control what’s going to happen along the way.
The Illusion Of Control Kung Fu Panda:
Instead of reading this paragraph, watch the video here! In the movie “Kung Fu Panda”, Master Oogway (who is a very wise character) explains to Master Shifu (who is his apprentice) the illusion of control. Shifu is confused as to how their new kung fu member, Po (the main character), is going to defeat the villain, because Po is a clumsy character that has little to no skill in kung fu. However, Oogway explains to Shifu that you can’t control Po; you have to just believe that it will work out. He states that you can’t force a tree to grow, it just grows naturally. The movie goes on and in unexpected events, Po defeats the villain.
Since control is just an illusion, focus on taking charge of your own life, so that you can better yourself, and leave the uncontrollable to faith. Having complete faith will ease your mind, let you relax and you will be able to enjoy the journey as your successful life unfolds right in front of you.