Wayne Dyer: Flowers Arise From Dirt and Rise Above All Odds

Remaining still, accepting defeat, embracing aloofness, and welcoming depressive thinking and emotions hinders the true human spirit and purpose. Many of the most brilliant and influential historical characters on earth were born in harsh, hostile for a growing human, hopeless, helpless, and seemingly in a cul-de-sec life path; they, however, managed their challenging and harsh life condition, emotions, thinking, and behavior that helped them to become the influential figures that they are. Many of them overcame their situational, environmental, societal, and even physical disadvantages and challenges hence managed to rise above all odds.
Wayne Walter Dyer (1940 – 2015) was a counsellor, educator, and philosopher. Wayne’s parents (Hazel Irene Vollick and Melvin Lyle Dyer) were from Ontario, Canada and before Wayne was born they moved to Detroit, USA. Waynewas born in Detroit and after graduating from Denby High School, he served in the United States Navy from 1958 to 1962. He spent the first ten years of his life in an orphanage in Detroit, after his father walked out on the family, leaving his mother to raise three small boys. His brother and Wane were sent to orphanage because it was hard for their mother to support three boys. Wayne went through hard times during that period in his life going in and out from one foster home to another. He received his  Ed.D. degree in counselling from Wayne State University. His first book, Your Erroneous Zones (1976), is one of the best-selling books of all time, with an estimated 35 million copies sold to date. After  Your Erroneous Zones, he wrote many other books that are also best-sellers. The success of these books also led to national television talk show appearances including The Oprah Winfrey Show, The Ellen DeGeneres Show, and others. Dyer rose above his personal, environmental, and societal challenges and adversities by becoming self-aware and awakened. He did so by letting go of the past and the maladaptive negative self-defeating thoughts and ruminations, he learned if he wants to be happy and reach the higher self he needs to live in  here and  now.
Dyer often used his family life and his own life experience as an example to deliver his message of hope and self-fulfillment. Part of Dyer’s appeal rested in his self-made man success story; he guided his readers through the process of reaching self-actualization and self-reliance. He criticized societal fixation on guilt, which he believed to be an unhealthy immobilization in the present due to actions were taken in the past. He asked his readers to see and realize how institutions, parents, and even themselves, had imposed “guilt trips” upon themselves.
Dyer initially resisted the spiritual label; he, however, adjusted his message to include more components of spirituality when he wrote the  Real Magic and talked about higher consciousness in the book  Your Sacred Self later on in the 1990s.
Dr. Dyer clearly showed us that despite the harsh and challenging personal life circumstances, purportedly overwhelmed by maladaptive and discouraging family and environmental bedrock dire conditions, and perhaps even with a truckload of negatively convincing “gene” and environment endowment excuses one still can be resilient, buoyant, and malleable and take control of her or his own failure or success, despair or happiness.
Dyer’s message was crystal clear: live with what you have,  not with what you want; consequently, it is through such a process and practice that one can live in the  here and  now with realistic measures of  self and her or his own personal resources. It is only then that one can stop maladaptive and humiliating self-talk, ruminating, self-blaming, guilty feelings, and be able to eventually put a stop to the vicious circle of the Self-defeating prophecy of putdowns that hinders self-actualization and ultimately happiness; they need to rise above these obstacles.
He believes the key is to love, love ourselves (of course not in a narcissistic way), find an anchor within the  self that would provide self-knowing and self-reliance through referencing, finding meaning and purpose in life, and then be prepared for the  shift! This shift (the moment of awaking) happens in almost everyone’s life, however, not everyone is ready for it to embrace or understand it. However, those who are entirely ready for this shift will reach self-actualization and internally happy and content.
To see and feel the light, the Sun, the happiness, and the path when we are surrounded by trees in wooded area we need to rise above those trees because any single tree can easily block our way!

 Author Bio: Dr. Harry G. Nejad

Dr. Harry G. Nejad   PhD, MACP, BA, BASc.
Research Scientist and Mental Health Counselor
Member of National Guild of Hypnotists (NGH). NGH ID: 40426